Thoughts on Being Overwhelmed

In today’s society, it seems that many of us feel overwhelmed at some point in life. This can be from work, school, moving, and many other things. Over time, if we are always living in this state, it could potentially lead to chronic stress and or major health issues. The question now is how do we live with it if we are unable to escape the stress of everyday life. More importantly, what are some things we can do as humans to help alleviate the stress and not being so overwhelmed?

One quote that sticks with me is from Timber Hawkeye, “you can’t calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass”. With so much happening in our lives, it is vital that we find time for ourselves and know that we are not alone. Find a way to relax and de-stress. Look for an activity you enjoy doing or try discovering a new one that you’ve been wanting to do.

What helps me get through the tough times of being overwhelmed are things like exercising, talking with someone, cleaning, napping, and deep breathing. It is our jobs to find a couple of things that will help cope being overwhelmed. If things don’t get better, it is important to reach out to someone and ask for help. Through the thick of it all, know that you have a purpose in life. Keep that in mind to help you keep moving forward in life.

Lastly, make sure to surround yourself with successful people in your life and career. These people will always be there for you through the good times and bad times. Also, know that there are some days that are better than others. If you are having a bad day, leave that all behind. The trick is to find a way to reset quickly so you can have time to get back to a place of some control. If we can keep these points and steps in mind, life can be happier and less stressful.

Along For The Ride, Emotions

I need help! Where do you go when you’re overwhelmed?

It can be really really hard to be in a place in your life where you are overwhelmed by what life has to offer. I have certainly felt the weight of emotional burdens and at times succumb to the pressure. Many are overwhelmed with strong feelings of sadness or anxiety, even persistent anger or fear. Some, unfortunately, can say they have had to deal with all of the above.

I will stick with my own personal truth for this post, but I would love for those who read the prompt to comment what their own truth is, and how they handle life when it becomes overwhelming!

I honestly have been able to stay pretty in control in recent years, but there are still times where I feel like I cannot handle everything on my plate. When I feel like I am not in control or are overwhelmed, it is not obvious or clear at all. I am an extremely stubborn person (thanks, Dad), and have a very hard time asking for help. In some regards, this is a good thing as it pushes me to figure things out independently. On the other hand, it can be detrimental. I have learned it is vital to try to understand when you really need help, and also to think critically about when not asking for help will put you in an even worse position.

Like I mentioned before, I am a stubborn person (also have to thank my twin brother, Wade), and the reason I know how important it is to be mindful of how much you can handle is from the many times when my lack of asking for assistance led me to deal with far more pain and negative emotions than I should have. Being in those positions negatively impacted my productivity and also my personal relationships. I was unable to put enough of myself into what really was important to me as I was spread too thin.

Focusing on what I do when I do feel overwhelmed? Well, the easy response would be “I don’t get overwhelmed”. That would also be an unrealistic response. I have worked really hard to develop a patient outlook on every facet of my life, but that is just the beginning. One thing I do to help myself not feel overwhelmed is take full control over some aspect of my life. My physical health is one of those aspects. I make sure to go to the gym very often and try to eat as best I can. I am human and do lapse into little carb binges here and there (cough* cough* whole pizzas), but overall I eat pretty healthy.

Other things that I try and do are to read or make sure to do some mindful breathing occasionally throughout the day. If I find my mind racing or thinking about too many things at once, I close my eyes and do 4-7-8 breathing techniques. It is something that I initially did with the children I work with, but I tried it and it does help to slow my heart rate down. The way to complete the 4-7-8 breathing technique is to breathe in slowly but fully over four seconds. The second step is to hold that breath for seven seconds, then slowly release all of the air in your lungs over eight seconds.

There are plenty of other aspects of my life that can be overwhelming. I am a supporter of and love someone who has a TBI. Her life itself is far more overwhelming than my own, but I do my best to take some of that off of her shoulders, and along with managing my own busy life, supporting her in the right way can be hard sometimes. Though it can be difficult for me, I understand that I am very privileged to be able to take control over the pieces in my life that I do have control over. I keep myself from being too overwhelmed by understanding where my life sits in comparison to others. I know I have it pretty good, so I do my best to try to help others get the same feeling of control or comfort as well.

How do you handle feeling overwhelmed? Everyone has different circumstances that lead them to the feeling, but something we all have are our own strategies to deal with them. If you are comfortable, share what makes you feel overwhelmed and how you handle it, or even don’t handle it.